The steps to acceptance (слэш)

And there his nephew kneels and takes hit after hit after hit after hit, tears in his eyes, blood in his mouth – and his heart already broken. It’s almost like the pain doesn’t touch him, and Lan Qiren supposes love has already torched his very soul.
No, Lan Qiren does not have a high opinion of love – and he definitely does not have a high opinion of Wei Wuxian.
Lan Qiren thinks love brings nothing - less than nothing, just pain and misery and futility - until he realises that, maybe, love is powerful beyond measure.